Grief
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You’ve lost someone. Your heart aches, and the pain is sometimes so unbearable, you almost wish you had never known the person—so you could be spared your pain. One day they were there, then all of a sudden…..gone. People tell you to move on; they just don’t tell you how. Questions swarm through your mind ….”Why does God allow good people to experience tragedy?  Why does He allow us to endure pain?  If He’s so powerful, why doesn’t He intervene and stop this?  Does He even exist?”
 
The truth is, we will never know all of the answers. We don’t even know the right questions! How can our finite minds hope to comprehend an infinite God? It’s like trying to trap water with a fishnet. When it’s all said and done, the water will escape and leave the net soaking wet. It’s been said that if God were small enough to understand, He would not be big enough to worship.
 
Well, you’ll never believe this. All of the questions you have, and the seeking you’re doing….you sound just like the book of Psalms in the Bible. David’s life experience with the Lord was not always pleasant. There were ups and downs, highs and lows, mountains and valleys, triumphs and defeats. Even David, who God called “a man after My own heart,” was not exempt from tragedy. He lost a child soon after it was born. David didn’t have all the answers. Neither do we. Job said this after he experienced the loss of his family and material possessions: “The Lord gave me what I had and the Lord has taken it away. Praise the name of the Lord” (Job 1:21, NLT)! He even went this far: “Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him” (Job 13:15, KJV). What kind of lunatic says that? Only somebody who knows God.
 
So then, what does the Lord say to those who can’t figure Him out? What comfort does He leave? He says in Isaiah 43:2: “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up.” God does not promise a life without struggle or pain. But He does promise us His presence. The Bible says that His ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. It’s hard to trust somebody you don’t know. Maybe it’s time you got to know Him. 
 
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Date: 2008-01-28 17:44:37

Marital Struggles

Having marital problems for about 3 years, he refuses to go to marriage counseling, i am confuse, not sure what to feel anymore, should i be patient and wait or move on with my life and my kids. One of the problems is that he doesnt show any feelings for me, he is cold and at times as if he doesnt care. I dont believe he is cheating, he doesnt know how to handle stress either and blames everything on me.

Date: 2008-01-24 11:25:01

Who'd have ever thought I would be divorced?

The unthinkable happened. I didn't know what to do. I was headed for a train wreck and couldn't stop it. My husband left, and never looked back. He had made up his mind that he did not want to be married to me anymore. How would I get through it? We never talked about the problems we had, so everyone was shocked when they found out. I can tell you that the ONLY way up out of that pit was by holding fast to the truth of God - that He loves me, and will never leave me. I learned that people fail me, but God never will. Now six years later, I am happy, full of joy and have a great life. Who'd have ever thought *I* would be divorced, and happy. All I can say is that life may not turn out like you expected, but if God is in it, it WILL be a good life.

Date: 2007-12-16 18:06:54

marriage problems

I am 19 years old and my wife left and took our two children with her one week ago. I got to keep my kids for the weekend but she refuses to work on our marriage. On Saturday 12-15-07 she said we could try and work it out. But I pray daily that it does work because I love her and my kids. On one day earlier I got serve with divorce papers. I been taking care of the kids when ever she don't want them. I need some advice and prayers for my family.

Date: 2007-11-17 21:25:01

Trust???

how do you begin to trust your spouse again after infidelity? I love my husband very much, but i am afraid of being hurt again.

Date: 2007-11-05 06:21:08

cheating

I'm having an affair behind my wife's back. She doesn't deserve this and don't deserve her. I am living with constant guilt and stress each day and I feel like I am stuck.